I Met a Woman… And She Changed…

by Pamela DeWeese.

Turquoise Howlite Brass Tag Pendant Necklace by Pamela DeWeese

I met a woman – and this is how she changed what I do…

I left home in my routine search for discounted sale prices on my coveted items when quite unexpectedly I met a woman who unintentionally changed what I do.

I was searching for the best prices on standard chains and clasps when a lady approached me asking if I knew where she could find, or if I knew of, something that would make it easier for her to wear her jewelry.

We spent several minutes discussing her love of jewelry, her passion for fashion, and her relentless pursuit of a solution to overcoming a disability preventing her from expressing her inner self.

After carefully listening, I decided I could offer a solution and suggested she look at toggle or magnetic clasps for future purchases and we reviewed what she might buy today to convert her favorite possessions now.

I was taken by her reach and her clear understanding of what she needed to do to make what she wanted to happen – happen.

I never got her name although somehow I feel her presence each and every day I design.

Please know I have a special place in my heart for anyone who suffers a joint disabling condition.

Pamela DeWeese
QuiteNicelyMe at Etsy


by: Rena

Pamela, I love hearing how chance encounters change perspectives and even change lives.

Your openness and willingness to listen to this lady and offer knowledgeable suggestions must have made as much of a difference for her as her sharing did for you.

I also love the attitude of the lady you met. Instead of thinking “I can’t” – she approached her issues with “how can I make it happen?”.

Thank you for sharing this lovely, thought-provoking encounter!

Thank you for sharing
by: Lauren, 4 Daughters Creations

What a perfect example of the Butterfly effect!

Between a Nana with arthritis and friends who have long nails, I have become conscience of how I make my jewelry and also WHO I make it for.

Love the “Ah-ha” moments
by: Suz, Red Hawk Designs

I really enjoyed your story. It is so true that some of the simplest things can be next to impossible for some folks. Their love of jewelry should not be hampered by something as tiny as a closure, but yet it certainly can be.

When those moments bless us, they are truly gifts. I wish there were more of them.

Thank you for sharing.

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  • Nancy says:

    Thank you so much for sharing your lovely and meaningful story. You are a giver — there will never be too many like you!

  • Autumn says:

    I’ve had a few encounters like that. They always teach us a lesson we never expect. I was discussing clasps with someone one day, and how even I have trouble with the spring ones.

    I have a few (two or three) early bracelets with spring clasps–all the others are made with hook or toggle clasps. I don’t use magnets due to the loss of magnetic force, and the risk to medical devices. I offer having any clasp changed free of charge. I figure if *I* can’t use it, or wouldn’t wear it…then why would my clients? I don’t even use filigree clasps with pearls due to the small size and difficulty of use.

  • Loretta says:

    Thank you for this insightful and valuable information. We often don’t easily think from outside our own world. Your story is so helpful.

  • Hi, very sweet story how she helped you see the world differently. It’s important for us to keep that ability to change our perspective. Especially in this world full of self obsession.

    I am disabled and have a hint for you for clasps, put the clasps on necklaces in the front as part of the focal point and make it large. So if the person has difficulty reaching up and behind their head to close the necklace they wont have to, plus the closure is easy to see. Or make more necklaces without closures that are large enough to slip over the head, and bracelets on elastic with out closures.


  • Nancy says:

    Rebecca, necklaces with large ornamental clasps in the front or front side are classy! They add to the visual value. Didn’t realize that they are of course also easier to put on/remove. Thanks!

  • I’ve had people come to my booth in the past and mention mobility issues and how they can’t wear jewellery with certain clasps. I’ve learned to bring extra extenders, and toggles, hook-and-eye and magnetic clasps with me when I go to shows, so I can do on-the-spot swaps for a client. I like being able to accommodate their needs, and it means they have something customized for them that they can wear without difficulty. Win-win!


  • natalie says:

    I remember Rena once posted a tutorial for a bracelet holder. It held one end of the bracelet allowing you to attach the clasp one-handed. Brilliant idea.

  • Natalie, thank you for remembering that tutorial! It’s Make a Bracelet Fastening Tool. 🙂

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