Comments on: Discouraged, Overwhelmed, but NOT Giving Up https://jewelrymakingjournal.com/discouraged-overwhelmed-but-not-giving-up/ free jewelry tutorials, plus a friendly community sharing creative ideas for making and selling jewelry. Wed, 08 Aug 2018 03:58:27 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.7.14 By: Susan D. https://jewelrymakingjournal.com/discouraged-overwhelmed-but-not-giving-up/#comment-599237 Wed, 08 Aug 2018 03:58:27 +0000 http://jewelrymakingjournal.com/?p=39551#comment-599237 Mardi,
One other little suggestion. I’m not sure how big the town/city is that you live in, but I am in the suburbs of a larger city. I joined an Art League and they have many opportunities to display and sell my work. Although most of the people in the Art League do painting, they have found that my designs are unique and welcome me to the League. We have had “shows” at the public libraries, several local restaurants, and some actual Art League shows/festivals. It took me a long time to get myself organized, making tags for my jewelry, making stands to hang bracelets, necklaces, etc., using construction paper cut into squares or triangles to display my earrings, but it has been worth it. Always remember, you ARE an artist, not just a crafter. Your designs and meticulous attention to detail are lovely. Sadly, we never seem to earn what we, as ARTISTS, should earn, but it should be considered a way to make some money from something we love doing. Don’t let it get you down, it is not easy to sell everything we make or actually make a large profit. Just be confident in your designs, branch out as much as you can, and keep enjoying what you do. It should never be a burden. I wish you all the best. You have a real talent and I can see you are an ARTIST too!!!!

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By: Norma https://jewelrymakingjournal.com/discouraged-overwhelmed-but-not-giving-up/#comment-598832 Tue, 31 Jul 2018 23:15:21 +0000 http://jewelrymakingjournal.com/?p=39551#comment-598832 Good for you!! I’m a therapist and am constantly trying to get my clients to do something, anything (such a jewelry making) as a way of managing their depression and anxiety. I gets you focused on something else besides your own problems.
With social anxiety, craft fairs are a great way to sell jewelry because conversations will naturally focus on something you know a lot about– your jewelry! In other words, you already know what to say!

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By: Alice Roberts https://jewelrymakingjournal.com/discouraged-overwhelmed-but-not-giving-up/#comment-598818 Tue, 31 Jul 2018 18:29:03 +0000 http://jewelrymakingjournal.com/?p=39551#comment-598818 Best wishes as you continue. Keep reading Rena's site she has such great information and advice! Search for past issues and information!]]> Mardi,
Your story is inspiring and your jewelry is beautifully done!
Even though you have struggles, don’t believe you are the only one! Each of us has battles to fight, just not always the same battles! We all have different gifts and needs. You have a supportive family and I hope you keep actively searching for your path. I also rely on my faith in God to lead and provide a path for my life. He is an unfailing support when I have tried to plan my way and obstacles appear, when I turn to Him, he can give me the inspiration to continue on.

Some websites that sell jewelry components have photos and tutorials that provide visuals that can give you inspirations or ideas of how you can use the materials or supplies you already have in different ways to develop your own style.

A piece doesn’t need to be elaborate to interest someone in buying. Just think how many of us buy, simple earrings that are versatile with a single stone dangle in various colors or maybe a cluster of stones or beads. Some have single simple chains with a cluster pendant or larger pendant. These are also our easy and favorite pieces for everyday wear. Then you also have larger or more elaborate bracelets, quick bracelets like stainless steel memory beaded bracelets which are easy to make and 3-4 wraps make a great looking bracelet in peridot and amethyst beads, or any other color wire or beads.
You can coordinate your beads with the pendant and earrings to allow the purchase a “set” or individual coordinating pieces, or unusual beads can be a set.

With your special pieces your inventory should allow customers looking for unique jewelry to find a variety of items at different price points to shop and purchase more than one or two items. I know a number of older women who prefer either pieces that are easy on with clasps that are toggle or fasten in different areas or like bracelets that are not closed with small spring rings since they may possibly live alone, but like pretty jewelry that they can clasp without assistance.
So I would say, if possible vary your inventory with a broader shopper base and offer a variety of items for a broader appeal and you should get more interest. I usually only make one of a kind item or one of a kind set of items but you could offer various color themes on your site.

I, for some reason, find it difficult to make something the same way twice! 😊 Best wishes as you continue. Keep reading Rena’s site she has such great information and advice! Search for past issues and information!

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By: joybelle malcolm https://jewelrymakingjournal.com/discouraged-overwhelmed-but-not-giving-up/#comment-598805 Tue, 31 Jul 2018 16:03:11 +0000 http://jewelrymakingjournal.com/?p=39551#comment-598805 Hello Mardi,
Thank you for being so transparent. I also am disabled (physically) and making fashion jewelry was my savior in grace, it’s therapeutic. Back in 2013 I couldn’t even hold a bead, now I have so much inventory I have forced myself to take a break.
Regardless of where you sell online, I see that social media seems to be the promoting factor.
This is the major hiccup in my business. I have a website, sell on Amazon Handmade, and EBay, but sales are slim to none. Since I cannot physically get out to go to shows, my only outlet is to sell online. I could hire a virtual assistant from say fiverr.com but money could be an issue, I have seen some for $5, we will see. Many have had success stories using fiverr,com, check them out.
Good luck to ya! Sounds as if you have the gumption to press onward which is awesome!

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By: Judithanne Westrope https://jewelrymakingjournal.com/discouraged-overwhelmed-but-not-giving-up/#comment-598803 Tue, 31 Jul 2018 15:40:53 +0000 http://jewelrymakingjournal.com/?p=39551#comment-598803 Dear Mardi, You have a real job – it’s called artist! Life is a learning process and you will discover new things as you go along. There are new things about making jewelry and selling it that will come to you over time. Be kind to yourself. Your work is beautiful.
JW

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By: Carol Sue https://jewelrymakingjournal.com/discouraged-overwhelmed-but-not-giving-up/#comment-598781 Tue, 31 Jul 2018 13:28:09 +0000 http://jewelrymakingjournal.com/?p=39551#comment-598781 Marti..thank you for sharing your story and jewelry with us. You may have some challenges, but you have displayed an inner strength that will sustain you as you work with your jewelry business. I have been making one-of-a-kind jewelry for years and am a vendor in a place called The Painted Tree Marketplace (check out the website). I love it because all I have to do is make the jewelry and display it. The manager and staff take care of EVERYTHING else – and send me a check! That might work for you. I love the simple stud earrings you make and would really like to know how you make them. Could you do a tutorial? I hope you might do that soon. Thank you in advance.
Carol Sue

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By: Carol Fowler https://jewelrymakingjournal.com/discouraged-overwhelmed-but-not-giving-up/#comment-598779 Tue, 31 Jul 2018 13:05:42 +0000 http://jewelrymakingjournal.com/?p=39551#comment-598779 . We may never know why we have to suffer with limitations this side of eternity but we can use the skills we have right now to do great things. I see your pieces and they encourage my creativity. Your work is unique and pretty. Can I make a suggestion? In a quiet room sit down with a piece of paper and a pen, say a prayer asking God what your next steps should be and write down anything that comes to mind. He will tell you. Maybe not all in one day but He will direct you! Keep a journal and watch how things grow and flourish!!😊]]> Dear Mardi,
First and foremost, you have talent girl!! Your jewelry is absolutely beautiful!!

You say you love making jewelry and that it relaxes you. Sounds to me like it is a huge part of your life too. What if God put this desire in your heart with a purpose? We all have a purpose and we are all called to fulfill it while alive on this earth. I do not know your life story or all the details of you, but I do know that you matter to God and that He loves you ❤.

We may never know why we have to suffer with limitations this side of eternity but we can use the skills we have right now to do great things. I see your pieces and they encourage my creativity. Your work is unique and pretty.

Can I make a suggestion? In a quiet room sit down with a piece of paper and a pen, say a prayer asking God what your next steps should be and write down anything that comes to mind. He will tell you. Maybe not all in one day but He will direct you! Keep a journal and watch how things grow and flourish!!😊

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By: Carla Krae https://jewelrymakingjournal.com/discouraged-overwhelmed-but-not-giving-up/#comment-598774 Tue, 31 Jul 2018 12:21:46 +0000 http://jewelrymakingjournal.com/?p=39551#comment-598774 There are makers making more money/ getting customers with their own Shopify site than on Etsy. Creative Hive Co has a lot of tips for makers.

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By: Karen https://jewelrymakingjournal.com/discouraged-overwhelmed-but-not-giving-up/#comment-507277 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 02:38:50 +0000 http://jewelrymakingjournal.com/?p=39551#comment-507277 Dear Mardi,
I’m glad you have the support of your mother and father. Gather as many people as you can- groups, therapists, that high school-er who can probably whip through getting you on social media. I am 59 years old. I have suffered with Bi-Polar since I was in my late teens but wasn’t diagnosed until I was in my early 40’s. I know how it feels to get frustrated with yourself, wanting to be a perfectionist. I have searched and searched for a psychologist for years to finally get me on the right combination of medicines that have worked for me. That is what has worked for me – you need to make your own decisions.
I’m not perfect, I still have occasional anxiety issues and times when the depression or the mania is pushing against what I call the glass ceiling (the meds prevent that for me), but many years ago I just told myself that this is a part of who I am and taking meds is what I do to help me be me.
Please don’t misunderstand or take what I am saying as medical advise because I am far from being a doctor. Just realize and know that you are very talented and do beautiful work. Many people would love to be as creative as you!
Keep your head up, go boldly on your good days and be satisfied with what you can do on your not-so-good days. I’m rooting for you!!

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By: Rena Klingenberg https://jewelrymakingjournal.com/discouraged-overwhelmed-but-not-giving-up/#comment-466200 Sun, 14 Aug 2016 00:57:33 +0000 http://jewelrymakingjournal.com/?p=39551#comment-466200 In reply to Brittany Williams.

Brittany, kudos to you for continuing to go to your craft table and making jewelry. When you finish the necklace you’re currently working on, we would love to see your beautiful work. When you feel comfortable with sharing your jewelry with us, you can share it here. Keep up the great work, Brittany! 🙂

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By: Brittany Williams https://jewelrymakingjournal.com/discouraged-overwhelmed-but-not-giving-up/#comment-466199 Sun, 14 Aug 2016 00:41:06 +0000 http://jewelrymakingjournal.com/?p=39551#comment-466199 Dear Mardi,
I make jewelry not nearly as beautiful as yours or many others I see on here. I am, 32 fighting anxiety and epilepsy. Each day I take 5 meds and I am glad I found you on here. Your story gave me inspiration so much inspiration bc I get so nervous and hands start shaking when I sit at my craft table, I got a piece I been working on forever! I’m scared to finish this necklace bc I am anxious it will fall apart when I used to make bigger, beautiful pieces than the one I’m working on. KEEP BEING AWESOME MARDI!!!

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By: Andrea https://jewelrymakingjournal.com/discouraged-overwhelmed-but-not-giving-up/#comment-458686 Mon, 18 Jul 2016 00:15:22 +0000 http://jewelrymakingjournal.com/?p=39551#comment-458686 Mardi,

I wish I had some insight but really all I have is my deep empathy and kindred spirit like pride for you and all you have acomplished. You are walking a difficult and often isolating journey… but please know, you are Not alone.

Reading your story it was if I had written it myself. I too am early 30’s, living with dad, on SSDI for migraines, depression, anxiety and a hormone disorder as well as alcoholism currently in remission. I know the desperate struggle of trying to push your body past it’s limits in an effort to do things that others can do. I’m fighting that today. I had wanted to make some jewlery… but I simply have too few spoons.

If you don’t know what I’m talking about Google Spoon Theory… also Jenny Larson’s Furiously Happy gives me strength and solice. There are days I still wake up and am in so much physical and emotional anguish that I wish I were dead. That’s a part of my struggle which I am torn between accepting as a product of the illness and fighting like hell against to try and be happy like a “normal person should.” (My words… when we really know there is no one definition of normal.)

I used to go out all the time and have loads of friends. I keep to myself a lot these days, but I’m working on reaching out slowly. I have been saying I wanted to blog for almost a decade, and just last month bought myself a little plot in cyberspace. I have yet to put it all together, but I’m hoping whenimakeitoutofbed.com will become another resource where folks like us can come together.

Until then, I hope you continue to do whatever feeds your soul… but at YOUR pace. My therapist is forever reminding me that we are on this journey of life simply to learn and experience. That’s what we are here for. And everything in our own time.

I sincerely hope that if nothing else you find solace in knowing that while our minds may tell us we are alone, you have a silent team cheering you on. Please count me as one of them.

Always,
Andrea

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By: Moogie https://jewelrymakingjournal.com/discouraged-overwhelmed-but-not-giving-up/#comment-432653 Tue, 15 Mar 2016 18:04:37 +0000 http://jewelrymakingjournal.com/?p=39551#comment-432653 Dear Mardi, your story really touches me. I have a 32 year old daughter with disabilities–social anxiety, fibromyalgia, rheumatoid arthritis, & the depression & other symptoms that go along with these conditions. Luckily, she has worked hard to control her afflictions with professional help, the love of her dad & I & her own fierce determination. And she makes gorgeous jewelry, as do you! I just want to tell you to never give up! Get medical/emotional help through the TX public health system & support organizations for your conditions. And please don’t worry about getting on every social outlet out there. Concentrate on one that you can develop well (FB?). Maybe in the future you can tackle the others. When you feel yourself getting stressed or down, walk away–literally, go for a little walk in the sunshine or just sit in it & breathe:) Wishing you much success, good health & happiness, dear. Oh, and my daughter just got married to a wonderful man last November?

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By: Janet https://jewelrymakingjournal.com/discouraged-overwhelmed-but-not-giving-up/#comment-431697 Sat, 05 Mar 2016 23:10:36 +0000 http://jewelrymakingjournal.com/?p=39551#comment-431697 I, too, fretted when just starting out. My 10 year old niece ( a fearless saleswomen, as it turns out) really helped me with self confidence. She would offer someone help, they would say no….and she didn’t retreat or catch on fire. She just moved on to the next customer. Start small with one table, try church bazaars or senior centers, any non-threatening place. Make a checklist and check stuff off as you pack. (A Rena recommendation) Set a sales goal and remember you are at the whim of the public, so you won’t always meet your goal. But you know what? You are a self employed artist and there is a LOT of satisfaction in that.

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By: Mardi C. https://jewelrymakingjournal.com/discouraged-overwhelmed-but-not-giving-up/#comment-377904 Tue, 23 Jun 2015 21:04:39 +0000 http://jewelrymakingjournal.com/?p=39551#comment-377904 Kasia – Thank you so much for responding! My apologies for taking so long to reply myself. I used to be an extremely social person – parties every weekend – and while I still WANT friends and WANT to go out, it’s just a LOT harder.

I am in the middle of setting up a blog on my website. I’ve also heard that every business should have one since it helps you connect more with customers (past, repeat, and potential) and Google tends to “like” blogs since they are a constant source of “fresh” material plus it makes your website more active. It’s taking me awhile, though, because I am one of those people who always HAS to have everything perfectly lined up before really doing or starting anything. Part of me wonders if I’m just stalling, haha. I do have a Facebook page for THB that I try to post on a few times a week. I also have a Twitter and Instagram but since I don’t tweet “in real life”, I always forget to do it for my business and my phone is so ancient, I haven’t really found a good way to utilize Instagram (but have been told I really need to). I also have Pinterest which I’ve been trying to get more active about. It’s just so much, but I think if I could just.. START and get the hang of things, it’d be less overwhelming than I think it’ll be.

I haven’t heard of Craftori – I will have to take a look. I try to vary my prices based on the actual setting or style. Maybe having more of a pricing variety might help as well?

I appreciate your input! And I love your avatar (wolves!).

Rena – Wow, thanks for replying! And thank you for your kind words. I have gone through some of the posts in that section – well, all of the sections really – and have already found some great advice. I haven’t read all of them, though, but I’d like to. It’s helpful knowing there are other people in your boat (or if not in YOUR boat, at least paddling somewhere close by in their own vessel).

I went to a women’s conference with my mom that let us have tables set up and stuff. I sold a few things but the entire process was exhausting for me because I was constantly worried about forgetting something and really brought too much stuff to begin with. I know I need to work on it and figure out some way to handle the stress better and not spend so much energy doing stuff online because I think I could definitely have some success selling in person.

I don’t know if I’d “trust” anyone to help me actually make the jewelry, but I’ve thought about trying to get some help with other things like social media, marketing, etc. – mostly the stuff I’m spending a lot of time and energy trying to understand and do that right now is taking away from the other things like updating my website and listing new items.

LeAllyson – Aww, thank you so much 🙂 That means a lot. I got a new camera for my birthday back in March and it’s AMAZING. I love it. My website is also a source of “pride” because I taught myself CSS and coding so I could change certain things and make it look the way I wanted it to. That took a long time but it was worth it.

I’d love to sell more on my website simply because Etsy’s fees are so high (compared to other similar, less well-known sites). Plus I’m not a big fan of the changes they’ve made (like advertising other shops on your listings when people are viewing them from a mobile device and allowing all of the manufactured / non-handmade stuff) and it’s hard being “found” there, especially in jewelry. I used to sell on my website before but the only buyers I had were people I either already knew “in real life” who knew about the fees or past / repeat customers who liked something on there instead of what I had on Etsy. I didn’t make enough, in the end, to be able to continue doing that when I had to renew my website subscription but it’s something I really, really want to do again and be more successful at.

Thank you so much 🙂 I try to not let my thoughts of “not being good enough” totally eclipse the fact that I HAVE done well and SHOULD be proud of what I’ve accomplished. The depression makes that a bit harder, though, since it likes to pick up any mild non-positive thought and spin it into something super negative and crippling. I think I’m just really in a rut right now and need to find a way to get out of it.

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By: LeAllyson Meyer https://jewelrymakingjournal.com/discouraged-overwhelmed-but-not-giving-up/#comment-377757 Tue, 23 Jun 2015 12:19:51 +0000 http://jewelrymakingjournal.com/?p=39551#comment-377757 Hi Mardi – Your jewelry is wonderful! I love the colors you use and the attention to detail. Your photos are great. I looked at both your website and your Etsy shop and I am impressed.

Rena has some great tips for you in her comment. As a jewelry maker who only sells online, I believe you can feel good about doing your business that way. You can also continue to grow your business that way. Most of my business is through my Etsy shop, and then I now get regular business each month through my shop that I set up on my own website.

It is a bit trying to coordinate inventory between my website and Etsy. If you don’t want to tackle that, then staying on Etsy alone with a link through your own website like you have done is a very viable option.

I believe the best way for you to succeed is to lean into your strengths, which will empower you to succeed. Don’t feel bad about what you cannot do because of your disabilities. You have done very well so far with your business.

Wishing you great success!

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By: Rena Klingenberg https://jewelrymakingjournal.com/discouraged-overwhelmed-but-not-giving-up/#comment-377591 Tue, 23 Jun 2015 00:52:24 +0000 http://jewelrymakingjournal.com/?p=39551#comment-377591 Hi Mardi, I love your jewelry – beautiful colors and lots of sparkle too! I’m glad to hear it’s doing so well for you. 🙂

I’m going to give you some things to think about as you decide where you want to go with your jewelry business.

But first, have you gone through our Disabilities & Jewelry posts here? You’ll find a lot of lovely kindred spirits, and posts with workarounds for both jewelry business and jewelry making. You may find some good insights there for the direction you want to go.

You mentioned you have a limited attention span and that you’re extremely worn out. So as you decide which direction you’d like to go with your business, you may want to be careful to avoid over-committing yourself.

Know how much time and energy you can realistically put into your Etsy shop, and how much time and energy you’ll have left for an additional venue such as a shop or show.

That’s one of the most important things for any jewelry artist, when deciding on a new direction for their business – to be realistic about the time, energy, and quantity of jewelry you can commit to your new direction.

You also mentioned that you do everything yourself, except for mailing your jewelry orders.

If you do decide to expand, it may be a good idea to consider having some help for the actual making of your jewelry. If your family doesn’t have time to fit that in, you might consider hiring a responsible high school student to help you make enough jewelry to fill your orders without wearing yourself out.

These are just some of the things to consider before you make any decisions.

I hope you’ll post later with an update! 🙂

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By: Kasia https://jewelrymakingjournal.com/discouraged-overwhelmed-but-not-giving-up/#comment-376949 Sat, 20 Jun 2015 23:57:05 +0000 http://jewelrymakingjournal.com/?p=39551#comment-376949 I can honestly say I understand how you feel, I’m in very similar situation: dealing with social phobia, severe enough that I’m right now unable to get “real job”. As for “wisdoms” and advices… I can’t say I have any, apart from the typical: I don’t know if you’re on any social media, or have a blog, and I really, really understand that, if you aren’t, you may not feel like setting up any, but those seem to be ways many people claim help to drive the traffic to their sites. I seem to get most traffic from pinterest, I really like that one, it’s not very intrusive, and actually had one customer who found me through it, and set up an etsy account just to buy one pendant from me. That was cool. There are also sites that you can showcase your pieces on, like craftori. This one also drives a bit of traffic to my etsy store. And also, you mentioned your prices… you have some pieces in similar style. Maybe you could try rising price on some listings, while leaving others with old one? And see what happens?
And I hope you will get answers from people who are better at driving traffic to their sites than me.

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